I have wanted to scream this out loud for a long time: I am so sick of all the victim thinking!!! On some days I'll have a Pity Party and be the only guest invited. I suffer from the self-imposed "It's not fair!" mentality. It's a belief that hurts me. Here's how it goes: I return phone calls. Why don't others call me back!? IT'S NOT FAIR! Whine! I respond to all emails (go ahead, email me). But I send emails that seem to go into a black hole. Why don't people respond to emails!? IT'S NOT FAIR! Whine, whine!! Why can't I get on Oprah!? IT'S NOT FAIR! Whine, whine, whine!!! The reality is, stuff happens. People let people down, balls gets dropped, mistakes happen, promises are broken, and as the country music song says, "Circumstances conspire to construct my present." And often those circumstances are out of my control. But I will not be a victim. But what about venting? Am I playing victim when I vent? Is it sometimes oka...

Here is some more thoughts on Km story, I shared it with a friend, comfort and this is her response. KM's story is very touching. I don't know too many people who have the backbone to declare who they are, right or wrong. Hate the sin not the sinner. The game not the player. The gay issue if viewed from a religious point of view is considered evil. In nature it could be considered an abnormality as the design of most creatures and even plants to be male and female.KM as a human being is the kind of person everyone would love. There was a time that the then attorney -general of the federation proposed a bill to ban any group canvassing for gay/ lesbian marriages and associations. I was against this bill. I felt it was vindictive. I wrote to protest this bill. Am I gay? No. But I don't believe you should send a gay guy to prison. More recruits or certain death. What will that achieve?I was not in support of the gay/lesbian groups either. My opinon? Everyone should keep their...

A new week, a new hope, but as for the weekend,mine was a good and interesting one, first good thing was that I didn’t go to work as is the usual thing for me most weekend and secondly  I met a rather very interesting person. Let me tell you a little about this person, he is not superman,but he's not like most men I know, and maybe you just might have a thing or two to say after reading his story, and hopefully I can pass that on to him. His name is KM (lets just refer to him as this); he is a young man, very upwardly mobile and successful in his career, as a financial consultants to some of the big financial houses in Lagos. A good looking fellow, at least I got to see him one on one for the first yesterday. But here’s the catch, Km,  is GAY! and also HIV positive. By now any reader of my blog who know me is wondering how on earth did you meet a guy guy! or are you gay? no am not, am straight as a bullet and find the same sex thing abnormal, but here's how I got to ...